Our Olivia turns one month old today (and a happy St. Patrick’s Day to all of my fellow Irish-Americans out there!) and I’m here in a puddle of tears. No matter how much I can try to reason with myself, I still can’t believe how quickly time flies. This month in a nutshell was just a transition. There are days where I felt great and felt as though I have this mom-of-two-kids thing down and other days where I silently have a good cry in the shower. Both are completely normal and par the course of being a new mom (or in my case, a mom again).
Today I’m sharing her one month update!
Bringing baby home
When we got the green light from the NICU for Olivia to be discharged from the hospital we were so excited. We had my husband’s family (who were also watching Greyson while we were in the hospital) come over so they were home when we arrived. Everyone had the chance to get to see and hold her and it’s been wonderful to finally live near family where these moments are commonplace and regular.
Read Olivia’s birth story here.
Introducing to big brother
All throughout my pregnancy Greyson had always seemed interested and excited about the idea of a baby arriving. We had talked him through it all, had him join us on our first sonogram appointment, bought and read a few “big brother” books to help prepare him, and made him a part of as many family decisions as possible. We soaked up as much one-on-one time as we could with him, but also reminding him that with a baby coming home he’ll have new responsibilities.
Thankfully, this first month with Olivia a part of our family he’s been completely in love with her. He has this natural nurturing instinct and is on the ready to help out whenever he can. She makes a single coo or cry and he’s on it getting her pacifier or running over to her bassinet to tell her, “it’s okay…Greyson’s here.” I mean, heart melting stuff.
He hasn’t appeared to regress in any way other than being a little more attached to me. For example, he prefers me over my husband for basic things like taking him to school or doing the bedtime routine. He’s wanting more snuggles and attention that way, too. I do feel guilty that I can’t always be the one to give him those cuddles or do all the things because of nursing or caring for Olivia. Sometimes I can be short with him or become easily frustrated when he doesn’t listen or follow a direction I give him – this also has me with the mom guilt. However, I know this first month comes with sleepless nights and new rhythms, which contributes to having shorter patience. I’m trying to have grace with myself during this transition and remember that it doesn’t last forever.
Olivia at one month
According to the Mayo Clinic, these are the most common milestones that babies hit during the first three months of life on the outside. Here are a few that Olivia is showing this month.
- Beginning to hold her head up on her own when on her stomach or holding her upright.
- She is beginning to track with her eyes (i.e. follow objects across her line of sight). We practice this along with tummy time to help build up those neck and eye muscles.
- She does respond to noises and I can begin to notice a recognition of my voice – she also really loves to stare at my husband.
- Is starting to show signs of “cooing” and making sounds other than crying.
- Early on she has been smiling but only in her sleep – still waiting for her to smile as a response to us!
- Her belly button fell off at about 3 weeks old.
Weight: 10 lbs 11 oz
What began as feeding on-the-dot every 2-3 hours, she’s now beginning to settle into a feeding-on-demand schedule. Our pediatrician is happy with her weight gain and encourages us to continue feeding as she shows signs of wanting to nurse. She also began feeding on about 2-3 oz every couple of hours and has jumped up to 3-4 oz but is going longer in-between feedings, especially at night.
To help keep my milk supply up I’ve been trying to maintain a pumping schedule in addition to nursing her. I am trying to remember to drink lots of water, keep caffeine to one cup of coffee, and continue eating plenty of protein (yogurt with granola has been a favorite). To help with this, and my own nutrition, I also make green smoothies and take a prenatal that’s great for postnatal health as well.
Sleeping this first month still has my husband and I in a haze. Although we do get a couple of consecutive hours of sleep, it’s nonetheless interrupted sleep. This causes us to actually feel more tired, but we tag-team with caring for her so we each can nap throughout the day when we can. During the day is when she sleeps the longest, which is helpful for those naps we like to sneak in or to get some work done – but we’re noticing she’s beginning to be awake for longer. I really feel like we’re slowly getting her on a similar sleep/wake schedule as us, so small win for us.
Also a plus: Greyson doesn’t seem to mind her crying in the middle of the night and sleeps right through it!
In the first month there’s not a whole lot going on in this department outside of caring for her basic needs and keeping her comfortable. However, she is beginning to show enjoyment of a few things:
- Watching our ceiling fan.
- Bonding with Greyson through snuggles and feedings.
- Her play gym (and Greyson loves spending time with her on it, too). We love this one by Tiny Love which promotes eye development with high contrast colors that newborns can see.
- Sponge baths are something we’ve started recently and she seems to really like those. We use our 4Moms Clean Water tub with the newborn insert and it’s been amazing!
- Tummy Time is not a favorite of hers but she does seem to enjoy her play gym which helps keep her interest.
- Being put down – she loves being held and rocked.
Happy one month, baby girl!